I'm ArtfulChub. Pleased to meet you!
Fifty one year old, artist, writer, musician and teacher here, who in the sexual arena is a bator, gooner, cammer and cocksucker. It all sounds sort of disparate, but I'd like to try, in this profile, to bring it all together for you, so you can sort of see the throughline and unity that I have come to know is there in myself.
Well it may seem kinda strange that I am this rather arty, very creative, intellectual sort of guy who creates all sorts of things, does helpful things in the world, loves to be in a long term relationship and is very loyal... and yet loves to bate, cam, and service guys, too. I will admit, it's complex, but I suppose we all are. And for me there is this spiritual throughline that I have mentioned above.
I am rather open, fun, free and exhibitionistic about my sexuality. I think sex is good and not really a moral issue (as the world tends to see it). And it is, like all things we experience, spiritual, and a way to share and connect. I just do not think it has to be exclusively with one person. It can just be fun, stress relieving etc., with other fellow humans.
I am emotionally monogamous with a life partner, but find that it is better and more realistic to have an open relationship sexually (as 70 percent of gay relationships are... and I suspect str8 ones, too, if the truth be told). I give you my more detailed philosophy concerning sex, life and spirit, below.
I am pantheistic and Priapian in approach: God in all things, including eros and shadow side. Masturbation on cam, to me, is ecstatic, worshipful connection with God, self and others. Blow jobs are play, stress relief, fun, needed, and helpful... and they could truly save the world!
A BJ or mutual masturbation session uplifts and edifies, just as a hug, smile or listening ear does. It is only our silliness and segmentation that has relegated sex, so often, to the realm of secrecy... when in reality it is something wonderful and healing to share with friends and even strangers.
Yes, God in all things, including chores, creating, professional life, good deeds in the world... and the bate and bjs, too! (And bjs ARE a good deed). All God. The universe is the body of God, and we and our lives (all we see, experience and do) is God experiencing.
We are, I believe, the eyes, ears, hands and mouth of God. "God wanted to see what it would be like to be you, and to be me." No separation between self, others, and God. Everything and everyone, under all the dross, is love... and love, as Course in Miracles asserts, is the only real thing. This is my current philosophy of life, sex and love, in a nutshell.
INTEGRATING MY PHILOSOPHY INTO LIFE:
And so, all the things in me that might seem so complex or even contradictory, are not, really.And yet, the segmenting, separation oriented world disagrees, and insists that we separate off the portions of us that are "not for polite company" (and sort of hide them).
But I am so very tired of segmenting. Segmentation is what is wrong with the world. Love, here on earth, is very conditional, and only certain parts of us can be loved in certain places, by certain people. This is not healthy and is soul killing, in my opinion.
Therefor, I am (sensibly) in some places on the net, trying to present the various me's as fully as possible. I am attempting to be more fully me, online and in "real life"... to pull the pieces of myself together. If only the world and everyone in it could do more of this, I think we'd heal ourselves and the planet.
There are so many aspects of me, just as there are for each of your reading this. You have come to the "sexy me" page, but there is also some of my music, artwork, photography, and even some writing here. These are all ways I use my abilities to entertain, uplift, bring smiles, and maybe, here, even give you a woodie... at least I hope so! Wink.
Thank you so very much for stopping by, and I hope you will continue to read in the column to your right for a bit more explanation and some instructions regarding camming, getting serviced, etc. I look forward to meeting you and getting to know you!
WHAT'S MY MOTIVATION?
I am all about creating (in all sorts of arts-oriented genres) and uplifting, personally and professionally, in my various capacities in the world. That is my life purpose. I know who I am. And, my "sexy" stuff, camming and oral service fits with that purpose, too.
I like to cam with and for others, connect, and make them happy. I love to service my buddies and make them feel great, and many of these play buddies have become great friends.
This is one of the major ways I experience friendship. I connect with them sexually, and I think this is no different, morally, than any kind or good thing the "clothed" world finds acceptable.
Everything I do in the world, I do to soothe, help, connect with and uplift others... sexually or otherwise. It"s all the same me, with the same intention. So, now you know all about me and how I see things, and what motivates me.
GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER:
If you resonate with my page and outlook, feel free to sub and/or friend me here on Xtube. I did include quite a bit of info in the various sections on this Xtube page, but I did not want the page too cluttered.
Now, on to ways in which we might connect, relate and share. I hope you"ll read below for those previously mentioned details about camming, getting serviced, etc. And, please enjoy my photographs and videos, below the text. They are my gift to you! :)
TO CAM WITH ME:
I love watching, being watched, nice comments and encouragement. Please look for me as ArtfulChub on Skype (include age, sex and "Xtube" with your add).
TO RECEIVE ORAL SERVICE:
If you are an Indy str8, bi or gay guy who is interested in receiving oral service from me at my daily Noon Group or daily between 10-12 morning and evening, please message me. It's free-of-charge play between consenting adults in a private residence.
ABOUT MY VIDEOS/SELF PORTRAITS:
I have posted arty photographic self portraits below in the media section of this Xtube page. Below, as well, are videos I have created which reflect my bator, cockworship, pantheistic, Priapian sensibility, and include my original music, words, performance, and bating.
MY ART AND LIT ONLINE:
I'm MertonParrish on DeviantArt, and you will find over 1000 art pieces and literary works in my gallery there, many of which are homoerotic in theme.
Meanness, judging, drama, a life/schedule/job that does not fit one, rigidity, undue focus on promptness, chit chat (vs. in depth interesting conversation), frustration, lack of time for creating, disconnect with God/self/Muse.
Harold and Maude, AI, Planet of the Apes, The Omega Man, Waiting for the Moon, Something Wicked This Way Comes, the Grass Harp... gosh so many... have to think more about this!
These are more my great loves as opposed to hobbies, but this seemed the best place to list them...
writing, drawing, painting, sculpting, knitting and needlework, composing, arranging, singing, playing many instruments, doing musical performances, recording, filming, editing, teaching, etc. And, of course, let"s not forget bating, camming and cocksucking... three very integral, great loves in my life! :)
If you would like to know more about me in detail (my great loves and influences in life) go to my MertonParrish page on DeviantArt, and click the upper right hand module (Deviant ID) and read to your heart"s content. There are many creators and creations listed there which I do think might interest you.
Broadway, movie soundtracks, classical, art songs, choral, madrigals, medieval, pop, 20"s jazz, 20s-40s music, vocal jazz, vocal jazz ensembles, jazz band, big band, folk, folk rock, cabaret, guitar, classical guitar, recorder pieces and ensembles, new age, hammer dulcimer, mandolin, ukulele, singalongs, theater organ, church organ, ethnic music, world music...
In general, I love lyricism in literature. I greatly enjoy poetry, novels, short stories, plays, biographies, memoirs and letters. I have a huge library and have been a big reader since my youth.
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