Time Required: Oral Sex can be fast and dirty or slow and seductive, no set time required.
- Start him off nice and clean.
In fact men can smell and taste just as strong as women. If you're new to fellatio, you might be worried about taste and smell. If so, suggest a sexy bath or shower together and start with a clean slate. You can also add a bit of flavored personal lubricant to his penis or put on a flavored condom, which is great for safer oral sex.
- Physical comfort is key.
You can’t have fun and perform well if you’re not physically comfortable, and fellatio can put a strain on your neck and jaw. Kneeling before him on a pillow, while he’s standing or sitting, gives you good range of motion and plenty of access. If you’ve had bad experiences with fellatio where you felt lack of control, have him on his back and crouch in between his legs. Giving head can put you in a major power position, if you like that feeling then go for it.
- Tease him with touch.
Using your hands first, gently caress his inner thighs, penis, testicles, and perineum, paying attention to his reactions (verbal and facial) as you touch certain spots. The most sensitive spot on a guy’s penis is the head (known as the glans), especially the frenulum, an indentation between the glans and the shaft on the underside of the penis. You might want to brush up on your knowledge of male sexual anatomy , to know what you’re working with.
- Give him a lick.
Follow up with your tongue, exploring the same terrain using slow wide strokes with your tongue. Don’t be afraid to use lots of saliva, as this natural lube feels great and helps create friction and suction. There are many STDs that can be passed during fellatio, using flavored condoms is a great way to practice safer sex and deal with any taste you may not like. It is also a perfect way to get guys who say they have difficulty with condoms, to gladly put one on.
- Take him in your mouth.
When he’s semi-erect, slowly guide your lips over the tip of his penis, making sure your lips cover your teeth as you slide gently down his shaft as far as you’re comfortable. Keep your mouth taut, as the pressure from your lips will feel great as they glide down the penis. Putting him in your mouth before he is fully erect is a good way of getting comfortable with the size of his penis, particularly if he is in the larger range.
- Watch the gag reflex.
If you’re not adept at deep throat (taking the whole penis in your mouth), don’t try it or you’ll trigger the gag reflex. It’s not necessary and a similar effect can be achieved with the hand and mouth technique described below. With practice, you can learn to relax your gag reflex and take in more of the penis.
- Use your mouth and tongue.
As your head travels up the underside of the penis, flatten your tongue so it gives his frenulum a nice wide, wet stroke. Don’t be afraid to try different types of licks or kisses—the lips feel good when popped over the ridge of the penis—but perform each stroke repeatedly before changing to give consistent pleasure.
- Have fun with the foreskin.
If your partner is uncircumcised, insert your tongue into the foreskin and circle around the head with it. You can also use your fingers to gently massage the head through the foreskin, alternating with deep tongue licks.
- Using your mouth and hand, tip #1.
A great blow job incorporates both hands and mouth. Place one hand around the shaft of his penis while you move up and down on the top half of his penis. Try coordinating your movements so your hand and mouth are going up and down in unison. If you're partner is thrusting, your hand will prevent his penis from being pushed too far into your mouth.
- Using your mouth and hand, tip #2.
If he likes this combination, bring your hand all the way up the shaft (following your mouth), remove your mouth briefly, use your palm to slide and twist over the head (as if you were juicing an orange), and then glide your hand back down followed by your mouth again. Repeat.
- Let him come.
When he’s ready to orgasm, keep your movements consistent and firm—don’t slack off. Once he starts ejaculating, see him through with a few strokes and then stop, as most men don’t want continued stimulation once they’ve ejaculated and had an orgasm.
- To swallow or not to swallow?
This decision is entirely up to you. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't want to, but it's nice to let your partner know it's nothing personal. If you don't want to swallow, and you aren’t familiar with the signs of imminent ejaculation , let him know you want a warning. Remove your mouth as he's about to ejaculate, and continue hand stroking through his orgasm.
Watch the teeth!
The biggest mistake that novice fellatrixes make is scraping the penis with their teeth. Though some men may like this mix of pain and pleasure, most will not. Fact is, it's difficult to relax and enjoy the sensations if you're always worrying about your dick being bitten off during a blowjob.
Tucking your teeth under your lips is one way to make sure you avoid this gotcha. Otherwise, just make sure to open wide and be careful. Your teeth and his skin just weren't meant to be together.
Act like you like it
It may seem simple, but if you act like you enjoy giving head, it will increase his pleasure greatly. Nothing's worse that getting a blow job from a reluctant or unwilling partner. Of course, the best way to do this is to swallow at the end, but even if you can't bring yourself to do that, a little enthusiasm will go a long way.
Some ways to show you like it include: initiating oral sex, without him asking for it or expecting reciprocation; making noises during the act (try humming....there's a reason they call it a "hummer"); and playing with yourself as things get hot.
A penis isn't a popsicle. Licking at first (especially behind the head) can be tantalizing and exciting, but when it's time to get down to business, take him firmly in your mouth and bob your head up and down.
Use your hands
Your hands are free, so use them! Complement the sucking up top with a hand job lower down the shaft, lubed up with your saliva of course. Gently play with his balls. And, if you're an adventuresome couple, even try putting a finger or two up his ass. However, be careful not to put them anywhere near the penis after that. A pair of latex gloves and water-based lube will help with hygiene.
Your hands are also a good way to speed up his coming if you're not looking for a marathon session. A hand job/blow job combo should result in a quick, intense orgasm.
Making it safe
There is risk in fellatio: you can easily pass diseases like herpes and even AIDS can be transmitted, especially if he ejaculates in your mouth. If you choose to play it safe with a condom, be sure to get one that is lubricant-free. Then, place a generous amount of water-based lube inside the condom. This will increase his pleasure greatly.